How can I be sure I’m making the best decision for me?

Do you ever find yourself thinking in circles, not making progress, as you try to reach a decision?

Do you find it hard to see what options you have, and to know which is the right choice to make?

Maybe you know that something needs to change but you can’t figure out how to make it happen. You feel stuck. You’re losing confidence because you can’t decide what to do next.

It can be unsettling to find yourself at a crossroads, wondering which direction to follow. Worrying that you haven’t the courage to take the next step.

Do you find that you give up or try to avoid thinking about the problem you’re facing it when a solution doesn’t appear? Sometimes we distract ourselves from thinking about a problem because we feel hopeless about finding an answer. Or we are inundated by others telling us what they think we should do, which makes it even more confusing.

Perhaps you’re holding yourself back from pursuing an option by thinking: “I couldn’t do that”, or “that would never work”. What if you were wrong about that? Often, the obstacles that appear in our way, that prevent us from moving forward, arise from assumptions we’re making about what we can or can’t do, about what might happen. We rule things out or close our mind to options because of an assumption we’ve made….an assumption that may not be true.

We can sabotage ourselves by our own thoughts.

What if you knew there was a way to think for yourself, that would help you find your own answers and help you to feel confident about making decisions for yourself?

Throughout my career, I was often faced with making decisions under pressure, having to manage competing demands and expectations. I had to weigh up the options and risks before deciding what to do. Making work-related decisions usually involved discussion with colleagues about what was feasible, gathering information, considering potential consequences.

When it came to making certain decisions about myself, for myself, it wasn’t always as straightforward. There were times when I wondered how I could be sure that I was making the right decision, that it would lead to the best outcome for me? What if there were options I hadn’t considered or what if I was missing information that could make a difference?

Then I found a way to think things through, that helped me be clear and certain about what to do, that gave me the courage to proceed.

Having the opportunity to think things through with a Thinking Partner gave me a way to get past what was holding me back. It allowed me to see possibilities I hadn’t imagined before. I discovered this was a way to think things through so that I could find my own answers. Because my insights and ideas were coming from my own thinking, not from others what others telling me or guiding me, it led me to a point where it was easier to decide what to do next. Having figured things out for myself, it gave me the confidence to plan how to progress.

And it gave me the courage to move forward.

If you could think for yourself, what might you discover? What could change for you?

Life can be so busy, with lots of demands and distractions. Do you find that when you’re distracted, you don’t always see the full picture, you miss a signal or take a wrong turn? We get distracted and our thinking gets diverted all the time: distracted by other people, by what’s happening around us, by technology.

Maybe you’re telling yourself you haven’t the time to think about the problem or question that is troubling you. Yet, deep down, you know that you need to address it, to resolve it. You know that in the long run, something needs to change.

What if you gave yourself the time to focus your attention on what really matters? What if you knew that by taking the time to think, you could figure out the best course of action?

Being able to think without interruption or judgement can help you think afresh about what you’re facing. When you’re free from distraction, it can lead you to insights that change your perspective or spark ideas for you. You may discover that you don’t know what you’re really thinking until you hear yourself say it. Having time to think can help you clarify if something needs to change.

And because it comes from your own thinking, you’ll feel more confident about what you need to do. It’ll free you up to feel in control, in charge.

It will give you courage to plan what to do next.

I know this works

This approach helped me when I was at a crossroads.

Thinking in this way empowered me to make courageous decisions and to feel confident as I made them.

I know this works.

It has helped me make my best decisions.

Do you want to make better decisions for yourself?